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Myth: | marriage will end our loneliness. |
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Reality : |
Many married people are still very lonely. |
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Myth: | We believe that being married makes us complete human beings. |
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Reality : |
A couple complements one another, not completes one another. |
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Myth: | Marriage Is for Everyone. |
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Reality : |
There are a lot of unmarried people who are extremely happy. |
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Myth: | Romance will always be alive in a good marriage. |
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Reality : |
Nearly all relationships experience peaks and valleys. The everyday problems and challenges of married life can often cloud over romantic feelings. |
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Myth: | Marriage makes people happy. |
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Reality : |
We can't expect our spouse to be our one source of happiness. Our personal happiness must come from within ourselves. |
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Myth: | We won't have major problems if we truly love one another. |
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Reality : |
A good marriage doesn't just happen. It takes nurturing and work. |
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Myth: | My spouse should know my needs without my saying anything. |
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Reality : |
Just because we're married doesn't mean we can read minds. We have to tell our spouses what our needs are. |
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Myth: | Conflict means a lack of love. |
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Reality : |
Conflict happens in every marriage. Fighting fair and for the relationship, and not just to "win" is healthy in a marriage. |
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Myth: | People marry because they love each other. |
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Reality : |
There are many other reasons: ecstatic romanticism, wishes of parents and/or friends, loneliness, the desire for economic security, etc. |
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Myth: | A good sex life is the best predictor of marital satisfaction. |
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Reality : |
There are many other extremely important factors: communication, problem solving, quality of leisure time together. These are all more significant n maintaining a good marriage than the sex life. |
